This is for the people who genuinely want an explanation from me. It is not intended for the individuals who are ranting that I am racist and homophobic. It is really for the people who I may have unintentionally hurt.
I was live on some webcam show and I started to joke about lesbians. This was over two years ago now. I was fourteen years old. The video has been left up on that site for nearly two years and no one paid any attention to it, as I wasn’t very well known at the time. Some people had seen the video but took it in context and realized we were joking around (Keep in mind that they saw the original video, not the edited one that people are looking at these days). Now that I have gained more notoriety, people are using a 2-year-old live video recording of me as ammo to defame me.
I left out a really important fragment of how this all started. I had a situation when I was 13-14 years old. It’s not something I was going to mention because I thought it would be taken lightly and I thought people would find it humorous. After speaking to one of my friends (and my parents) about the situation, all of them agreed it’s not something that should be laughed at and that a pedophile can be a man or a woman. There shouldn’t be double standards but sadly there are. Just think about that pretty blonde teacher who slept with a 14-year-old male student. She didn’t get any jail time. If the genders were reversed she would’ve definitely been put in jail.
When I was 13-14 (this went on for 8 months straight) I was being pursued by two adult women. They would constantly send me XXX rated messages on a site called “Formspring”. First the messages started off flirty and made me uncomfortable. I blunty told them “No, I am straight”. For some reason these two adult women knew my age (very few people knew how old I was). They would say “How do you know if you’ve never tried it? You’re young so obviously you’ve never been with a boy before”. They were right, I hadn’t been. Still, I know I am straight and the fact that these people are trying to convert me made me angry. It’s no different from being gay and someone is trying to convert you into being straight. It just won’t happen. After a while I started getting anxious. They were mentioning information that only my friends knew, and one of them even mentioned what outfit I wore that day. Most people knew how I dressed so it could’ve been a lucky guess, but it was very accurate and it scared the shit out of me. After months of them talking about masturbation, S&M, what the both of them would do to me, and how I am DEFINITELY going to be a lesbian, I snapped. I got really angry. It’s no different from a girl being pursued by an older man, and saying she hates all men now. I was being pursued by older women, so I said I hate all lesbians now. Immature? Yes.
I handled the situation wrong by venting. When I’m in stressful situations, I tend to goof off and make comments that are sometimes morbid and inappropriate. It doesn’t justify what I said. The jokes were out of line and I never intended to hurt anyone. However, calling me an ugly disgusting cunt who should die is also out of line. What some people don’t understand is that I was being relentlessly attacked way before the video came out. Now they use the video as a tool to justify their harassment towards me. Before the video came out, 100% of the hate was simply “She should die, she’s an ugly fake cunt. You shouldn’t like her because she’s not really pretty”. Now they say the same exact thing except they add “Oh, I’m only saying this because she’s a homophobic. Did I mention she hates fat people and is a racist? She’s that too.”
What was your excuse before when you were saying the exact same thing? Exactly. Before the video even came out you people said the same things to me over and over again. All of them bash my looks. The ratio of them bashing my looks is higher by far. Doesn’t that say something? The homophobic insult is always secondary. For example, the first thing that they type is “SHE’S FAKE AND SHOULD KILL HERSELF” with a disclaimer like: “I’m allowed to say this because she’s homophobic, by the way.”
They lie and twist their stories repeatedly.
I don’t hate homosexuality. Never did. I just made a few jokes LIVE on a webcam when I was fourteen, and suddenly I deserve to die? Seems a bit drastic, especially since I couldn’t care less if two people of the same gender like/love/marry each other. How is that any of my business ? I never bullied a specific individual in my entire life. These people are gaining up on me for being a horrible person, but what are they doing at this very moment? It’s called cyberbullying. Oh but wait, I made a video over two years ago making inappropriate jokes so I deserve to be viciously bullied for everything thing I do, including non-offensive videos about hair(?)
What I did was wrong, but bullying someone non-stop every single day is even worse. (They get on their computers and check what I am doing every single day. That’s not normal.)
Also this “Racist” label, I cannot even begin to tell you how big of a lie it is. The homophobic label I can understand since I did make some immature jokes and comments, but racist? I never called anyone the “N” word, like some people are saying. Fabricating “quotes that I have made” and saying I called someone an “ugly fat nigger lesbian”? What a lie. Not even a realistic lie, either. I made immature jokes about lesbians and suddenly I am a “fat-people hater”, racist, homophobe, and “ugly-people hater”. (Yes, they actually said I hate fat people…based on what? Nothing. It’s completely fabricated.)
Part of me knows this apology won’t change a thing, because some of these people who are bashing me are just doing this for fun. Why else would you spend hours on a computer writing about me? Because you want to save people you don’t even know from liking me? Why would you care if they like me? They’re not your brothers, sisters, friends, or mothers. Also, why even speak about my looks? If it’s only my personality you have an issue with, you wouldn’t be attacking my looks 24/7. Why wouldn’t you be attacking someone like Lisa Lampanelli? If MY jokes offended you so much then hers would send you into a schizophrenic rage. She attacks every race, creed, color, sexual orientation, or combination thereof, but I don’t see you writing a word about her.
If someone who is homosexual or bisexual was hurt by my jokes or comments(I don’t like calling them jokes, because they weren’t funny but I TRULY didn’t say them seriously), then I sincerely apologize. I said some bad things; however, do you really think that if I were a homophobe I would go on a webcam that I knew was LIVE and say those things? No. I didn’t expect this video to be taken out of context and used against me either. I just had anger against two adult lesbians that I couldn’t handle in an adult manner.
The fact that one video could branch out into so many other lies such as me hating fat people and African Americans is really insane. Just consider the source. Altering photos of me, lying about my age and saying I am an 18-22-year-old who has gotten multiple plastic surgeries?
Wait…you always say this has nothing to do with my looks but there you go again, bringing up my looks.
(By altering photos, I mean they literally morph my nose smaller and shorter, my eyes bigger, and then say that I am the one who did that. How about you use the original photo instead of manipulating my photos into something completely different?)
It just shows how much these people cheat and lie. Sometimes people can’t tell until they go to my website and see the original photo. You will be gobsmacked at how much these people fuck with my face in photos and say it was the “original”, when it was not.
They do the same with my videos. This small group of people always use to say how I look different in my videos compared to my pictures, and that my videos are ugly. NOW they’re saying something completely different. “The only reason her videos look like her photos is because she edits her videos too!”
Changing your story, again.
Making animated gifs from my videos and then morphing them doesn’t count. Again, I didn’t do that. You did. When people watch the original video they will see that you just fabricated everything. Do you realize how insane that looks to normal functioning people? It seems these people are getting desperate. It’s because I started regularly making videos, they heard people saying “You really do look like that”, and they can’t handle it so they have to make up stories. They themselves don’t even believe what they’re saying. They know it’s 100% bullshit.
Normal functioning people don’t invest this much time into defaming someone. They have some serious underlying issues of anger that they can’t work out. Do you really want to trust someone like that? They go to every single blog that might be saying something nice about me, just to try to convince them I am a disgusting ugly person. On top of making ten, twenty, even thirty fake accounts to look like many people at a time when there are only 4 or 5 people at the most. It’s getting old. Also, do you think I’m the only target? Definitely not. They attack other girls as well. They need to take out their personal frustrations on more than one person, so of course it makes sense.
The straight girl who is spreading lies and making hate sites, this is not for you. I know why you are doing this, and it certainly isn’t to “warn” people about me. You’re just having a blast sitting on your computer altering pictures of me, drawing pictures of me, and making up fake “quotes that I have said”.
For that I pity you.
For the longest time I didn’t see the point in explaining myself because I TRULY thought everyone knew I was not a homophobe, and just a kid who made some fucked up jokes in the past. Now I see some of you really think I hate GLBTG people, when I do not and I never have.
That’s pretty much the situation. Believe me or don’t believe me, I don’t really care. However, I figured people who are neutral in this situation deserved an explanation, and individuals with different sexual orientations deserved an apology from me directly.
Hope you understand,
Dakota
If we as people can’t laugh at some jokes and learn to take ourselves less seriously, the terrorists win.
i never saw the video and i don’t really know much about the people bashing you or what they say specifically, but tbh i’m pretty positive it’s just cause they’re jealous. i mean you’re ridiculously pretty and you’re gaining some notoriety for being beautiful and i think girls are jealous so they’re just trying to tear you down. people will make up stuff that you’ve had plastic surgery/wear extensions/edit your photos/whatever to make them feel better about themselves. the funny thing is, even if you DID do all that (not that i think you do) you’d still be prettier than like 90% of people on the planet haha. just ignore the jealous little brats, they’re not worth your time!
it’s ridiculous! I’ve seen all sorts of nasty posts about you, and quite frankly I think it’s very unfair, especially as things the are attacking are unrelated to things you said in the video! As you point out, what do your looks have to do with anything!??
If you watch the original video, it’s clearly just a hyperactive, giggly teenager making jokes and getting carried away. We’re all guilty of that sort of stuff when we’re that young!
These people are (and I know it sounds cliche) jealous, and they get an adrenaline rush from ranting about you because the internet makes them feel powerful and untouchable. That’s why I hate this whole “trolling” thing… it’s sad some people feel the need to use the internet for an adrenaline rush, some people have enough adrenline in their REAL lives!
Your message seemed heartfelt and like you were truly sincere. But, you lost all credibility when you said, “How is that any of my business? Go attack religious people who believe it is a complete sin.” Why would you advocate for someone else or some other group to be attacked? I don’t believe any one should be attacked. Whether its people attacking religious people or religious people attacking others.
Like I said, you seemed sincere; I just don’t think you should be diverting the attention of the post on another issue.
Well your letter is very nice. I support both you and your sister :3
Ahh… she did not ever say what you claimed she said… She did not, at any point in the post suggest that another group be attacked instead.
aw, sweetie, you definitely aren’t the person who owes anyone an apology in this situation. sometimes people try to make other people look bad, but it just reflects poorly on them.
& sometimes people say things they don’t mean, it happens, i know i have. but the past is the past, the only thing that matters is the present, & right now you are beautiful.
but dude, don’t worry about it, they aren’t even worth the effort. seems it’s bothering you more than it should. *hugs* feel better <3
but yea, i've been there, email me if you want to talk.
We’ve all done stupid things when we’re young; I know Ive said regrettable things without understanding the true implications of what I’ve said. Maybe you could make a donation to a society that supports tolerance of the LGBTQ community? Perhaps use your newfound fame to garner support for a worthy cause. Just a thought.
I was one of those people who really took offense to that video, and bought into the sensationalist speculation regarding it (i.e. that you still held those beliefs). It is hard to assume in best in these kinds of situations. Having of course seen the video entirely out of context, I believed you were serious about what you said. I was really offended and hurt by it.
I really appreciate that you wrote out this apology, and that you explained your side of the story to everyone. I especially appreciate that you did it so publicly. I was honestly shocked to see that you had written this on your main website, but I think doing so says a lot about how badly you wanted to correct this matter. Thank you for it.
I just wanted to let you know that you’ve affected at least one person by doing this. You’ve changed my opinion of you drastically. I’ll no longer believe or even read the things people say about you, because I no longer care. You’ve apologized, very genuinely, and that is what matters to me. A lot of people have ignorantly said things when they were too young to really know better, but very few of them have had those instances around to haunt them for years afterward. You shouldn’t have to be put in that situation, but you owned up to it anyway.
I hope some of the hatred towards you dies down. If it doesn’t, I guess that speaks a lot for what the true reasons behind their attacking you were. I’ll be disappointed but not exactly surprised…
In any case, there’s one more person on your side from here on out. Thank you again.
前排
我想说。。。。。前排求粉混脸熟啊各种
If you don’t really care there is really no point in writing this. I deal with haters and people twisting my words and intentions CONSTANTLY. The best thing is to just ignore it and continue what you are doing. =P Just watch what you say..choose your words wisely and you’ll be fine. ^.^
come to China lol, no any complex relationships or any other things like this to bother an american girl. many good stuff awaits u. work smoothly, happiness, high-grade, upper class life or go film acting industry. let me be you guide , sensible smart girl
im from Los angeles Chinese boy. tell if u interesting go LA or CHINA
come to China lol, no any complex relationships or any other things like this to bother an american girl. many good stuff awaits u. work smoothly, happiness, high-grade, upper class life or go film acting industry. let me be you guide , sensible smart girl
im from Los angeles Chinese boy. tell if u interesting go LA or CHINA.
They’re all jealous.
People these days just bring other people down to feel better about themselves instead of actually achieving something on their own.
You’re a beautiful person, inside and out and I’m glad you realise they’re just trying to bring you down. If they actually were the kind of people who have it in their heart to truely care about the people you might have offended they wouldn’t approach you this way and try to offend you.
I hope these people will grow up and realise how sick and twisted their thoughts are.
Stay strong.
Love from Amsterdam.
Hah, I knew it. I didn’t believe it when I read things about you being homophobic, because I felt there was some context missing and it didn’t line up with you not sharing much about you in public internet space, especially not controversial opinions like that.
But that thing about them picking apart your looks like that really is weird. Saying that your photos are shooped and that you’ve had plastic surgeries… Anyone with a decent pair of eyes can tell that it’s just good photos and make-up.
I don’t know what kind of people they’ve spent their life around, but I had quite a lot of girls in my school who were just as gorgeous as you (except that they didn’t have such cute sense of style), so calling you unreal and impossible seems just weird to me.
「メロンパン大好き」より
日本の人が書く内容と海外の人が書く内容は違うものなんだと感じた。
自分のありのままの姿を、好きなように書いたほうが楽しいと思う。
日常の出来事なんかを書くと、みんなが共感し、楽しむことができるようになるんじゃないかな。
例えば、チョコボール買ったら、金のエンゼルの当たりを引いたとか。すげーなぁこいつはてなるみたいな
海外の人だから分からないかもだけど、お菓子のことだよ。
日本語で書いてるから読めないかもしれないな。
文才ないので、おかしなところだらけだけど
最後に一言、コメントは自分を成長させてくれる糧だと思うといいかな。
(^。^)/バイバイキ~~ン 以上 「メロンパン大好き」より
日本の人が書く内容と海外の人が書く内容は違うものなんだと感じた。
自分のありのままの姿を、好きなように書いたほうが楽しいと思う。
日常の出来事なんかを書くと、みんなが共感し、楽しむことができるようになるんじゃないかな。
例えば、チョコボール買ったら、金のエンゼルの当たりを引いたとか。すげーなぁこいつはてなるみたいな
海外の人だから分からないかもだけど、お菓子のことだよ。
日本語で書いてるから読めないかもしれないな。
文才ないので、おかしなところだらけだけど
最後に一言、コメントは自分を成長させてくれる糧だと思うといいかな。
(^。^)/バイバイキ~~ン 以上 「メロンパン大好き」より
日本の人が書く内容と海外の人が書く内容は違うものなんだと感じた。
自分のありのままの姿を、好きなように書いたほうが楽しいと思う。
日常の出来事なんかを書くと、みんなが共感し、楽しむことができるようになるんじゃないかな。
例えば、チョコボール買ったら、金のエンゼルの当たりを引いたとか。すげーなぁこいつはてなるみたいな
海外の人だから分からないかもだけど、お菓子のことだよ。
日本語で書いてるから読めないかもしれないな。
文才ないので、おかしなところだらけだけど
最後に一言、コメントは自分を成長させてくれる糧だと思うといいかな。
(^。^)/バイバイキ~~ン 以上
同じコメント三回書いてしまいました。
イタズラではないです。
ごめんなさい。
Haters gonna hate.
Air…Today i have a poem about air.i’m very doubtless this text will be a high point.
Honestly, I saw the video and it wasn’t even NEARLY as bad. I make much worse jokes on a daily basis. This whole apology wasn’t even necessary but I gained a huge amount of respect for you. Sometimes I think they just needed something to whine about you other than “she’s beautiful and I’m fucking jealous” lol. Cus I saw the video and honestly, seeing someone accidentally step on an ant would shock me more than that video did. It was so miniscule and everyone could tell you were joking. I still like you a lot!
I get why people are mad. It’s completely fine.
However, continuing the constant flaming is not helping this issue go anywhere.
“Oh LOL look, she apologized. What a homophobic liar.”
Seriously. Seriously?
I’m a huge LGBTQ supporter, so I understand why people get hurt by this sort of stuff, and rightfully so.
But most people I know accept apologies. I haven’t ever seen so much continuous flames on this subject in this context. It’s actually really strange to me that people from the LGBTQ community are blowing this so out of proportion instead of focusing on more important matters.
If people can’t change then what’s the point of advocacy for gay rights?
It’s okay if you don’t forgive her. But why keep bringing it up.
^^^TBH I think it’s because it has nothing to do with the gay community…they just don’t like her and want something to use against her just like she said in the blog post. it’s called the green eyed monster :/ that’s all.
You couldn’t have wrote this more perfectly. Why would they bring up your looks then? These bitches are running around screaming like chickens with their heads cut off because of jealousy. Don’t let it get to you.
People should just get over themselves they are making it a huge thing like you are THE ONLY ONE in the world that has offended someone.
Yeech… Well, 14 year olds do make immature comments. But everyone was 14 years old once and is guilty of saying stupid shit. Those people are pressed if they’re gonna continue bashing you after this long public apology. Offline life much? Fresh air is good for you people. Take advantage.
honestly, i’ve read absolutely everything all of those people are saying about you, and it is so pathetic.
people are so ridiculously bent on pointing out every flaw and imperfection of yours that it’s really just a joke. the amount of time people have spent digging up personal information about you and your family, editing your pictures, mirroring your videos, screenshotting your quotes, and compiling them in hundreds of different ways is just… beyond comprehensible. in the end, i really don’t even care if any of it is true, because none of the things anybody says about you really changes how the world (other than a handful of /b/tards) perceives you.
once people realized your pictures aren’t all photoshopped to shit, they started picking apart your videos to try and prove that your features are still somehow fake. i mean really… who cares? false eyelashes aren’t what’s single-handedly winning the affection of hundreds of people for you. these little things just go to show how people will find absolutely anything they can to show you in a negative light.. hence the blowing up of these old videos.
it’s also ridiculous that they are picking on someone your age, whether you are 16 or 18. it’s ridiculous that they don’t realize how much someone changes in 2 years, especially under pressure, and especially in their teen years, both physically and mentally. it’s ridiculous that they are even judging someone your age in the first place… actually it’s ridiculous they are judging you, period. i don’t know why people need to sit on a make-believe pedestal and try to hand out divine judgment and retribution to anyone they deem unholy. people who would otherwise have nothing to say in real life feel empowered because they have a keyboard. it’s a little irritating.
I agree with the other posts, everyone says things they regret. Especially when they are younger. Its the mark of being an adult when you can step back and say ”Yeh, that was a silly thing to say.” Get over it people
The people attempting to bad-mouth you are solely doing it because they are envious of the way you look. They are looking for something to drag you down with.
Try to ignore xx
That video was hilarious, I always thought you were hilarious and both you and your sister used to really cheer me up when ever I was feeling shitty and I got to watch you on stickam…
As a homosexual, what you said did kind of hurt my feelings but I didn’t care because I knew you were just kidding around and I took it as a joke anyway. People can just be.. really easily offended and take it too far. It really does mean a lot that you appologised, though. I still thought highly of you then despite how you felt about people like me (How I thought you felt about people like me).. But now you have made everything so much better :}
Thank you very much..
Sincerely,
Freddy Krueger
yo fuck those haters. they just mad cuz they’re fat poor and ugly. i laugh at those losers
Haters always gonna hate. Trying to attack u based on a vid u uploaded years ago, becoz they’re jealous.
Tbh, I always thought you were a bit snobby and one of those popular, pretty ‘mean girls’ before, but this written apology shows you’re really a sweetheart.
「メロンパン大好き」より
おつです。(お疲れ様です。)
こちらのほうは(日本のほうは)、昨日よりも寒かったです。
本当に冷え込みが厳しく、手サミン(手が寒く)て凍りそうでした。
「そんな状況報告なんていらないよ」とツッコミたいところだと思いますが...
ダコタさんの写真見て気づいたというか、気になったことがあるんですが、
足に痣ができてるみたいですが、サッカーなどのスポーツをやられているんですか(?。?)
それとも、単純に、日本で言うところの天然キャラとかですか(?v?)
まあ、どちらにしろただ疑問に思っただけだから、気にしないで聞き流してください。
最近、三色団子、シュークリームが流行です。どっちも美味しいよね。そちらの国には、ないかもしれないけど。
ダコッティー(ダコタさんのことです。失礼ながら、あだ名をつけてみました。)は、
普段、和菓子と洋菓子だと、どちらが好みですか?
是非、日本に来られたら、和菓子を食べてみてね。きっと、感動するよ。 (^o^)/バイチャ~
Don’t let people hold you down :3 ♥
You are nice & I love your blog ! I like you since Myspace times, hahaha ^-^
Greetings from Germany
Chin up, girl ♥
love your style its just so cute and very different from the general fashion thing going on today. i love that you chose clothes that suit your look it very unique and put together … nice to see a new hairstyle on you i love bangs … but asymmetrical bangs are high maintenance
Dakota,
I first heard about you in one of those nasty forum posts. I got curious about you and started following your blog. I love your makeup tips and hair videos. Your style is adorable and delicate. You seem like you would be a lot of fun to hang out with, doing artsy crafty things, makeup, shopping, whatever. Don’t let immature girls on random forums get you down. The kind of things they say make them look ridiculous. You’re better than all of that.
I’ve never seen this video, but wow, who would put down a 14-year–old so much? Everyone makes out-of-line jokes when they’re 14. *Every*one. The only difference is yours happened to be caught on camera. I can guarantee you that whatever you said in that video, the people badmouthing you said things just as bad, or worse, when they were 14.
I believe it *is* because of your looks that people are so desperate to slander you. The first time I saw a picture of you, I was amazed, and I don’t even care about “beauty” very much…. But I had never seen such a perfect face before. I usually don’t feel a wave of jealousy looking at other girls, but I have to admit, I did with that picture. Then I thought, there’s a downside to being so pretty—she must have so many jealous girls trying to bring her down. :-/ I know what pretty girls go through because my sister is very attractive, and I’ve seen it all happen to her. It’s sick how society is so quick to criticize girls for not being pretty enough, and then slander them for being “too” pretty. You just can’t satisfy some people.
Hey Dakota,
Sweety, I know and understand everything you’ve said. You’re a beautiful girl and there will always be jealous wolfs trying to ruin your image. They were trying to find out about your flaws and the only thing they could find out was the one you were joking when you were 14 and lie about it by adding something extra.
Want to know something about me? I also have very large eyes (like yours) and some people on the internet always tried to ruin me by trying to PROVE why my eyes are fake (Photoshopped etc) because it’s not common, until the day I was tired of all the jealousy of some idiots, so I filmed myself and I’ve posted in online on my Social Network profile, thought that all the fuss would STOP, but it only got worse when they said “What’s the matter with this girl, trying to show off her looks, she’s so full of herself” etc…
I want to say, no matter WHAT you say or do, they will ALWAYS try to ruin you, so listen to my advice and don’t give a damn about them. You’re perfect as you are, we love your imperfection
that means the mistakes you can make. And you are a sweet person for trying to clear it up because you don’t want to hurt anybody.
Hey relax, as you said you were only 14 years old and still only 16. I used to laugh at homosexual people all the time when I was younger and now I am bisexual myself lol. Don’t believe what the internet tries to make you believe: you’re allowed to make errors! Just be careful now about what you say on the internet using your IRL identity because it can stick with you forever, unfortunately
Also I must say that those tweaked photos of you are so funny, you can be confident about your real look so don’t take it badly
holy shit!!! this is so powerful and honest.. i really admire you dakota
Sounds to me like they’re just jealous of you & taking things out of context just to make you look bad because they’re unhappy with their own sorry existence which is painfully obvious considering they resorted to cyber bullying…pathetic…keep your head up Dakota, people are harsh!
xox
Amber Dawn
everybody can make mistakes, but you didn’t, and this message make me know that even if you are 16yo, you are mature enough, dakota we’ll support you for life, at least i will…
¿Y es cierto que entiendes el español? Tus videos son muy comentados por gente de paises hispanos.
I just yesterday saw a video of you and I thought this girl is just amazing and than I scrolled down to the comments and was absolutely shock at people’s comments and honestly I myself was hurt so to show that you are a good person I complimented on your beautiful eyes in hopes to lighten things up and so don’t listen to these people you are and always will be a fantastic person:1
Hey so I just wanted to say no matter what people say you are amazing those people who accuse you aren’t looking at the real you they are looking at the outside like what happened to me see I’m really slow in school so I don’t follow directions very well so I was tormented by my classmate and as well as my teacher but I kept pushing and so should you:) you are awesome.
Hi Dakota,first of all big regards from Macedonia!You are the most beautifull girl what i ever saw in my life!So other
Have nice day <3
envy souls can say anything,haters gonna hate..You have very good future ahead of you,you gonna choice right ways for your own life ,ways what gonna make you happy.Haters can eat …… cuz they never gonna be like you.Im really sad cuz i cant’ meet you soon,im damn miles and miles away from you.So i find to many fake Facebook profiles but there are profiles what they want to ruin your angel beauty.I really dont understand where they finding so many photos from you?!SO fans of Koti don’t belive in any crap what envy people write about her,that is only a bullshit!They only want to ruin her!But they can’t!Whatever happens i will be the ”last standing” and you got totall support from me and normaly from all your fans.So i sayin Go baby Go :D…BTW my e-mail is [email protected] I would like to chat with you
You know what Dakota, I saw a lot of stuff bashing you and I honestly don’t care, I think you’re beautiful! I love your style and truthfully, how can anyone really know anything about who you really are? This is the internet. I think you’re great and I love your blog and videos!
Keep posting, no matter what people say about you, they’re jealous and I think you already know that anyway.
Have a great day girl!
ps have you ever thought about an adorable pixie or edgy haircut? Hair will always grow back, and I think it could look so, so cute on you if you get it done by a good stylist. I like the long hair but it hides your bone structure a lot and it would be so pretty to showcase it instead of hide it
Hey there I know this is a bit old but still i want to reply to that post.
First I want to ask one thing..did you really write this text on your own? Because you seem to pretty adult for a 16 yo girl lol What so ever this was not the topic I wanted to talk about.
This homophobic topic is somehow nuts. Who in this world doesn’t make jokes about others??? O__o Like serious I have gay friends and they know that I make jokes bout it (not really beeing mean but making jokes and stuff..). And they make jokes about others also. I wouldn’t even answer to it lol Just ignore stuff like that. You are no politician that needs to excuse their doings
Only thing I really wonder bout is if this is somehow an art-figure you show on the web or this is really you? Visual Kei is still rly nice though^^°
Sayonara,
Seiji
Estoy de acuerdo contigo, solo por hacer una broma las personas inmaduras se lo toman muy enserio y empiezan a odiarte, es increíble que por un simple vídeo ya empiecen a criticarte y a insultarte.
When people rise to fame, everyone will try to bring them down. Since you are a young girl who looks ridiculously beautiful and is becoming a celebrity, people will become jealous and try to bring you down. haters will hate.
I’m really sorry for what happened to you. I just wanted you to know that it happened to me too, when I was 12, and it’s something that make fear people for a really long time. Now I’m 20 and i’m still kind of scared of men in general unless they’re from my family…but now I’m stronger and I won’t let it affect me anymore. With this I mean that it’s important for your own life to let the bitter memories behind and think in positive. Im nobody to speak of your problems, but as someone who lived the same experience, after the years I see that the only way to be happy in the end is to forget, and then someday…forgive (but I truly know this won’t happen in my case) Well, take care and be happy
(oh, and sorry about my english, I don’t know much)
I’ve read some of those bad comments posted about you, and it makes me soo angry. For sure they are finding any possible way to defame you. Just like other famous youtube people, such as Michelle phan. When she got famous on youtube and even got a job and live a better life, some people started to hate her, especially when she got sponsors. I think you should just ignore those hatefull messages and pictures that people posted, just live your life and do what you love. Ps. I think your gorgeous inside and out! Keep up with the good work!!! For sure your going to be a star in Japan!!!
You’re pretty funny
Hey Kota Koti!
First of all, God bless you for this lovely writing of yours, I really see a mature understanding harmless beautiful girl. I didn’t see the video you’re talking about, but I’m sure after this apology you’ll be forgiven. Afterall, we all make mistakes, even GLBT people ;D .
Another thing, those who attack you are actually making you more famous, because they are spreading your name all over the Internet, and bringing to you potential fans! So look at the silver line, always!
Haven’t you seen celeb gossip sites and magazines? They write crazy stuff and unbelievable stories about world famous artists, actors and actresses, did they make Britney spears lose her fans? Nope!
Cheer up! And you are really strong for surviving the attacks and you do grow up and mature after difficult situations, you learn and move on. So, NEVER have regrets!
Beauty is subjective, every person has a different taste and opinions about different stuff in life, if some don’t find you attractive, it doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you, it’s just they aren’t the ones that find you beautiful ;D
About hating, seriously someone as cute as you with all the kawaii stuff, I would never believe that you are a person that would hate!
I learnt about you I think a week ago through a site that pictures of weird stuff, like funny pictures, fail moments, and they had those exaggerated photos of you in an album calling you real-life Barbie. I didn’t know your name back then but I stumbled on a blog about you and your sister then lead me to your YouTube , I watched about three of your videos.. Later came here and read this
My style isn’t Japanese, I’m more fan of classic simple dresses, sometimes regular shirts and jeans.. But I like japanese culture and I find what you’re doing is interesting and fun! And I REALLY liked the video on how you draw the black eyeliner ~ planing to try it out soon..
Anyways, i wish you all the best!
Stay safe and be strong!
And always remember what you said, they are few people who are attacking you!
Remember that they are not attacking you because of you! No! Because there is something wrong with them!
Salamalikom!
Dakota I LOVE UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU
Ignore them. You’re so cute ~
The haters are only doing this because they’re jealous. See, if you’re really unattractive and fat no one would say all these things about you. Ever heard of the expression “no one kicks a dead dog”? No matter what, don’t take them seriously, and keep on being yourself.
You are really brave facing up to the people who are all jealous of you! But i also think this should be the only time you address this if you can. – because the people who said these things about you did not DESERVE this apology, you are a big person to address these rumours. You have stated you side of the story – so screw everybody who wants to harass you about these things you “said” after this… they dont deserve anymore of your time
love x
I am SO sorry. For the jealous idiots that want to tear you down, and for the horrifying things that those women did to you. (Have you considered that it might be males pretending to be females? I’m not saying that women are incapable of sexually harassing others in such a manner, but that males would be more likely, given the violent nature. It occurred to me that a male classmate might know exactly what you’re wearing and might harrass you to, for lack of a better way to put it, get his rocks off.)
I am bisexual, and I’m also terrified of both pervy men, and homosexual pervy women. Especially if they’re larger and or stronger than me. When I was younger, I too made an off-the-cuff remark of that nature. When told I was going to be meeting an older lesbian couple who were friends with my mother and her best friend, I said “Just, please, don’t leave me in a room alone with them. I don’t want to feel awkward.” to which my mother’s friend haughtily stormed off, shouting something about me being a homophobe. I had to explain to my mother that the reason was I didn’t want to be hit on, or worse, perved on, while no one was there to defend me. Just as if it had been a couple of hetero men, I didn’t want the risk of rape. Out of context, and me still being closeted, the comment did very much sound homophobic.
What I’m trying to say is, I TOTALLY understand exactly where you’re coming from.
…
Except the being absolutely freaking gorgeous part. Can’t say I’ve been blessed with being a 15 out of 10 on the beauty scale. I used to think I was a solid 7, maybe an 8. Now I feel like a 5 or less… Poo.
Can’t say I’m not jealous. I’m just not going to be a bitch about it.
You have done a good job in writing out an apology to those you may have offended. For the haters, just ignore them. They actually spend a lot of time in editing your photos? Wow, they should get a life.
By the way, I think you’re beautiful. Asian women do that eye makeup all the time to make their eyes look bigger. With you, you’re just enhancing your already big eyes for that doll look. You pulled off the japanese fashion with ease. I look forward to your future endeavors
At least the truth is out.
Some people are just jealous.
They somehow like to did up 2 – 3 years video to bring that particular person.
But the thing is, the video is like years ago and now you trying to bring it out again?
Plus it’s like when people are young, we tend to do things without thinking so much.
And when we grow up we will reflect on the actions.
Which I does feel myself doing something wrong when I was young.
So I can say that these people are so free and immature.
Blog more! I want to know how are you doing over there!
Want to go japan for once! =w=
I would also like to add, the haters are actually blinded by their unjust hatred. After reading this, I went on one of the bloggers who posted crap about you just to see what it’s like, couldn’t believe what I was reading (and the blogger actually tried to justify her actions and said she’s allowed to do whatever she wants, it’s a free country blah blah). How can anyone be so mean towards someone they’ve never met?! So I defended you (using no coarse language) and same crazy lady told me to go and kill myself. So you see, there is no reasoning with people like that and I sincerely hope you won’t ever let people like THAT affect you. Wishing you the very best. <3
Hey, don’t let them bother you. I mean, for sure these people are trying to humiliate you, but you know what is the cause of all that? Envy. Yeah, I mean, c’mon, 14 years old? And with a traumatic experience like that? You were only joking around! And if that affected someone, you clearly apologized and explained all! And, those fake quotes, edited photos, whatever; are just signs of envy and jealousy; people who really can’t stand watching others succeed or having something they want. Mean people in general. Don’t let them bother you, cause that is what they want
I think you did a good job in writing this. I’ll admit, for a long time I was one of those haters that never believed a word (although I never actually acted upon it). But… The more I looked at your videos and at your blogs, I realized.. People are just finding anything to attack with. Some people used to point out that you swore alot but, so what? So do I. I’d be shocked to find a teenager that didn’t. And if you do/don’t edit videos, if you do/don’t wear lenses or lashes or whatever, it’s no one’s business. All women want to be beautiful, and it really shouldn’t matter if it’s natural or fake or whatever! Who cares?
It’s YOUR image, after all, and you know yourself better than anyone does.
Consider me a Dakota-fan from now on!
It’s so unfair people treat you like this for no reason. You seem like a nice person, and the fact that you openly apologized to the people that could have been offended honestly means a lot. You have a bright future, and those who bash you are simply building their self esteem in a twisted, dark manner. I think your creative and fun, and I love your video tutorials, and their just jealous that they can’t be as imaganitive and naturally pretty as you are. Hope your luck gets better with these people, Dakota!
Hmm. I really appreciate this post. Thank you for this because I felt what you said was offensive and I was truly hurt when I watched it. But this was very sincere and genuine, I believe. I have never heard you say anything about african americans either. People are cruel and find it funny to bring down others who are successful which I think is truly pitiful
xoxo
I totally support you. I actually found out about you a while ago, and I looke you up on google, and one of the first things that came up was a hate website, in which there were several GIFs about you using Photoshop, but I immediately ignored this because two of those GIFs where from a video of yours I had just watched, and none of the “evidence” that you used Photoshop form the GIF had actually been on the video. So i guess I’m really just writing this to say i support, and to not let haters bring you down
<3 LuLu
On a side note: Lisa Lampanelli has actually said several times that she actually supports homosexuality, and isn't really racist. She's donated almost $50,000 to the Gay Men's Health Crisis organization. She just uses all this for her show.
私はこれを書くためにどんなあなたを誇りに思うのを感じる…私は、あなただけの感動であるそのようなオープンですべてを取得する方法を意味する…
それはおかしいです?私の日本語は非常に良いではない場合…申し訳ありませんが、私はまだ正常に日本語で書く方法を勉強しています。あなたは日本語で書くことで何か良いですか?
まあとにかく、あなたは何をすべきかやり続けるなど可愛く、それをやり続ける! XOXO
Oh my gosh, when you spoke about how you were pursued by two adult women, it brought back some teary memories for me. When I was twelve years old, I was followed home by a far over middle aged man. Right now it seems like nothing compared to what you went through. It scared the living daylights out of me, so I can’t find words or even try to imagine what your experience with those women must have been like.
I hope you ignore any bad comments and keep doing what you do best, looking cute and posting lovely videos! Don’t forget to blog often too!
I wish you all the best, さようなら! XOXO
So don’t listen to them! They are just stupid. They don’t realize how much it hurts.
I bet the mean comments get deleted just like the ones on BRAVO Models
You see..I’m most famous DJ in my country and I was in a situation like yours..When I was kid and now I’m 20 years old I made a mistake like you and that mistake haunts me even now.Peoples who hates me are using that mistake against me but all I do is ignoring them…And that proved to be a succesufull tactic..Belive me you should do the same and sooner or later they will stop.If you need someone to talk about this just email me because I perfectly know how you feel.
omggg dakota i totally feel you. all of these people are working so hard to bring you down because they are jealous! seriouslyyy its pathetic. youre ridonkulously pretty and it drives them crazy
lol girls like you and felice fawn get so much hate just cuz youre beautiful. they only hate you cuz they cant be you 
I was surprised when I read this. I followed a link that someone on facebook had posted. I will be honest, until I read this I hadn’t heard of you. However, I experienced for an extended period of time the kind of harassment you have described. Some of it almost identical and more than likely with the same rationale except that it all began long before the Internet was about … so there was no “incendiary comment” involved.
Honestly, based upon my experience, I would expect that you were targeted (for whatever reason) prior to even encountering the two predatory lesbians (or whoever they are). Your reaction and such merely being further ammunition for those that had already decided to attempt to victimize you. (This isn’t to make you paranoid, just a possibility.)
In actuality, the video and comments in question, being sparked by the aggravation you were being exposed to, means that in actuality it is the harassers that should apologize for it in any event. Put somebody under pressure and they will likely react to it, and not always rationally. Those that have made a crusade against you based upon such really have no credibility given that they have not taken the circumstances into account. Also, given the effort put in to make your life difficult certainly points out how little substance they have.
Anyway, all the best with your future endeavors and hopefully your detractors will be strung up as they deserve.
Regards,
Shards (Sean Gleeson)
Well I must say its terribly shocking just how awful people can be,With anyone in front of a camera you’re going to be under scrutiny but I think you’ve handled this really well, don’t ever let these people hurt you, its sad that they spend all there time altering your pictures and spreading rumors, they must have terribly self esteem issues.
Hi, I know this post was a long time ago, but here is my opinion. You are a really beautiful girl and don’t need to stress with those comments. Jealous, it is the TRUTH. I was very terrified when I saw your stories and I hope you are ok now. Don’t bother you with this. People need can’t understand that every body can be beauty and try to make other ugly, with offenses. I’m from Brazil and I supporting you from here. Bye
Dakota, I think I can relate to u. I know how it feels being pursued like that.
All I can think of is that they do happen so that we can learn from the situation and keep us stronger and able to handle greater challenges in the future.
I know this is old but- I want to thank you for accepting your mistakes and apologizing. When I fitst saw your videos I was quite fond of you and you seemed really nice. Then, I read a couple of blogs about the ‘real’ KotaKoti and I was quite disapointed. I heard a while ago that your apology for being homophobic wasn’t much of an apology, so I was a bit bitter towards you. I believe you though. For what it’s worth.
Thanks for clearing up the air.